Probably the most important points to remember when
experimenting with anal sex is that you should use slender
objects, go slow, and use common sense. Pain is always
a good indication that you should slow down and re-evaluate
your approach. Keep things pleasurable, use common sense,
and never insert anything into your anus that might
be difficult to retrieve! It's not uncommon for people
to end up at their local emergency room after "losing"
an object in their anus. Always use sex toys that are
designed for anal use. Body parts are obviously safe...just
use your head (so to speak!).
Is Anal Sex Safe?
Anal stimulation can be safe, and it can be unsafe.
It all depends on how you go about it. Some guidelines
for safe anal play: Number one - never go beyond what's
pleasurable. You should always stop immediately if you
or your partner experience any pain. Always use objects
that are designed for anal play. Anal sex toys should
be flared at the base.
Some anal vibrators are very long
and have a long power cord extending from the base.
These are probably OK if you're careful. The anus is
capable of powerful contractions - particularly during
orgasm - so use your head! No small objects that could
get lost. Always use lubrication, especially if you're
new to anal play. It's easy to tear the sensitive tissue
around the anus, so lube up. If you don't have lubrication,
try using some saliva.
Where to Start
So you've decided to try stimulating your anus, or your
partner's anus. Now the question is where to start.
The answer is fairly easy, yet complicated. Obviously,
we're talking about the anus here, so you want to start
"there". You might want to start my slowly
massaging the anus with your finger, or your tongue.
If you have anal lubrication now is
a good time to apply it. Dab a little on your finger
and gently rub it around the anus. The recipient should
be relaxed and comfortable. Easing into anal play is
never a bad idea - it might take a little time before
the person is ready for anal penetration. If you or
your partner has decided to experiment with anal penetration,
try slowly inserting a finger, or sex toy. If you or
your partner feel any pain, stop right away. The anus
can stretch, but it has it's limits. You might be going
too fast. Slow down a bit, continuing to stimulate the
area. It helps when the person who's anus is being stimulated
is relaxed.
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