First off, its important to know that a woman can be
completely satisfied with just one orgasm. Some women
will never have more than one and it won't ever be a
problem. During sex, men are often too focused on the
destination, when for women its all about the journey.
While female multiple orgasms are
more often talked about, both men and women are capable
of having multiple orgasms. Dodson distinguishes between
multiple orgasms and the “aftershocks of pleasure”
that follow a big orgasm, which some people might call
orgasms, and which allows them to count 20 or 30 orgasms
a night. One of the pitfalls of multiple orgasms is
the trap of waiting for them and having anxiety about
whether or not you’ll have them. Do either of
these things and your attention will be taken away from
the pleasure you’re feeling, which is a waste
of an orgasm whatever number it comes in.
Generally women who have multiple
orgasms prove different from those who don't. They are
more likely to have examined their clitoris, and to
have both given and received oral genital stimulation.
They like their bare breasts fondled and their nipples
kissed. They are more likely to enhance clitoral stimulation
during intercourse by thigh pressure or masturbation.They
are more likely to have engaged in mental stimulation
via erotic fantasies, films, and literature. And they
discovered some pleasures at an earlier age: sensations
from the clitoris, masturbation, and orgasm.
Multiple and sequential orgasms, like
vaginal and clitoral orgasms, are concepts which have
caused a lot of confusion and left many women worried
that their sexual response might be somewhat inadequate.
Because orgasms come in waves, some women are not even
sure whether their orgasms are multiple or single. Multiple
orgasms are those that are experienced in a chain, one
directly after another; sequential orgasms are those
with a gap of a few minutes between each one. It seems
that true multiple orgasm is extremely rare, although
many women are capable of sequential orgasm.
On the topic of multiple orgasm, Masters
and Johnson wrote: "If a female who is capable
of having regular orgasms is properly stimulated within
a short period after her first climax, she will in most
instances be capable of having a second, third, fourth,
and even a fifth and sixth orgasm before she is fully
satiated. As contrasted with the male's usual inability
to have more than one orgasm in a short period, many
females, especially when clitorally stimulated, can
regularly have five or six full orgasms within a matter
of minutes."
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