Sex With A Man Other Than Your Partner
For women, this is most often a past lover. Some women
feel adulterous or guilty reliving a particularly hot
session from the past: don't. It's normal.
If it's someone new you're fantasising
about, it's the old want-what-you-can't-have-syndrome.
Being involved with a partner doesn't mean all other
desirable men go away. So those adulterous feelings
have to be dealt with in one way or another. The safest
outlet of all is our imagination--and it's remarkably
fertile.
Many women relish the idea of meeting
up with a mystery man and going to hotel with him for
a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel
like the only people they can truly let loose with are
strangers simply because they won't be judged. In reality,
this sort of sex usually works out rather badly. In
our fantasies, it's tremendously rewarding. This is
sex for the sake of sex and the reward is pure, unadulterated
pleasure. You can be as wicked as you like because you'll
never see him again.
Sex with a "faceless" man
is a variation that's even more of a turn-on. He comes
up behind you, you feel rather than see him, and you
can experience the sensations of sex without the intimacy
of eye contact.
Sex with Another Woman
Yes, virtually every woman wants or will share her body
with another woman. Women are more likely to have same
sex fantasies than a man is, probably because it's seen
as more acceptable. Women are also far less likely to
get hung up on homophobic fears that they're gay. The
woman featured isn't usually someone we know but she
always knows exactly what to do to turn us on because
she's got what we've got.
Should men be jealous because you they get left out?
No, most of these women want their man to watch them
while they work... or play, as the case may be.
Something You've Never Tried Before
While many women are outrageously experimental and imaginative
in their fantasies, they often don't admit a desire
for anything "kinky" to a partner for fear
of being judged. Playing out the scenario in your head
is the next best thing. For those who are open, fantasising
is also a form of rehearsal, upping the anticipation
of experiencing it in reality.
Group sex was a popular choice among
the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front
of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing
different men and women to touch and penetrate your
body simultaneously is incredibly erotic."
If there's one thing that women are
dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before.
The creative ideas included:
spanking him
ordering him to perform certain sexual acts
making him beg for what he wants
having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other
phallic object
Many career women fantasised about
being strippers, while others took things a step further
and imagined being prostitutes. This one is also popular
with women who may be inhibited sexually in real life.
In the fantasy, they indulge their true sexual selves
under the guise of being paid for it. For men to pay
to have sex with you is also reassurance that you're
attractive: you have something men want so badly, that
they'll hand over cash for it.
Stripping is a more common variation on this theme:
you tease the men mercilessly, and they're popping their
zippers they're so turned-on by your body.
Obviously, the fantasy is romanticised
beyond belief because the life of either is not so glamorous
that women would opt to have it as a career choice.
Receiving Oral Sex
It's the quickest, most effective (sometimes the only)
way we orgasm, so it's not surprising it features heavily
in our fantasies. The guy of our dreams doesn't just
like giving oral sex, he's so enthusiastic he'd actually
like to climb inside and stay there for days. Often
he's a sex slave: tall, drop-dead gorgeous, and muscle
bound.
Fantasies Involving Romantic Sex
This is the one most women readily admit to, probably
because it's the most acceptable. Romantic fantasies
are sex with emotional attachment and most read like
a Harlequin plot: gorgeous man, incapable of loving
one woman, meets us, is knocked over by our looks and
headstrong personality, then ravishes us on a moonlit
beach.
Sexual Ravaging
"Sexual ravaging" is a very common female
fantasy. Passionate and forceful but rarely violent
and painful, the "ravaging" in our head differ
dramatically because we're always in control. Although
most women agreed that they fantasise about having a
master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas
some women said that they would surrender to their master's
demands, others opposed the idea and said that they
would resist and disobey his commands. Another woman
said she fantasised about being her man forcibly pushing
her against the wall and "pinning my arms above
my head with one hand while the other hand has made
its way under my skirt and is fondling my vagina,"
received nods of approval by all the women in the room.
Andrea went even further expecting the man to "rip
off my clothes, force open my legs, penetrate me, and
concurrently smear my lipstick all over my face with
his forceful kiss." Hmmm, interesting.
On the opposite end of the spectrum
are fantasies where we force him to have sex with us,
often in typically male-dominated situations like a
courtroom or a business meeting. Being the aggressor
or having physical power over him appeals because in
real life it's usually the opposite. Although saying
"rape fantasy" sounds somewhat unthinkable,
that's exactly what most women call it. They want to
play the innocent, naïve, unknowing little girl
who gets taken advantage of by the devious, predator-like
man.
Guys, please keep in mind that these
are fantasies; don't read this article and take it as
a reason to get medieval on your women. The reason fantasies
are so cherished is because the majority of them will
never be realised.
Being Found Irresistible To Men
If you're so gorgeous/sexy/long-legged/stunning he can't
help himself, you're absolved of responsibility once
more. This is a favourite with women who still need
permission to let go, but it's also a pleasant daydream
for most of us. After all, who wouldn't want to be so
beautiful they have men drooling at their feet.
Lay me out on display
In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised
to learn that many of them fantasise about having an
audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner.
I guess the idea of knowing that their “performance”
is exciting others, provides them with a feeling of
empowerment.
Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating
in an erotic movie.
Strap me on, I'm going in
A popular fantasy women have is being the man for the
night. They would like to act and dress up like a man,
right down to a strap on penis. The idea of knowing
that we're in the position that is usually assumed by
men is probably the most aphrodisiacal element
of it all.
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