Make time for more than a quickie
Most men first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive
ways. They do it quickly and need to figure out what
to do with the evidence afterward. This can create a
powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying
attention to where your sexual arousal can take you.
To start exploring something different, make sure you
have some extended time and privacy for yourself, where
you aren’t trying to finish quickly before somebody
interrupts you.
Turn off the porn (just for a while)
and tune into your body
Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of men do, and while
porn can be great, it also takes you out of your body
a bit with the fantasy. This can distract you from what’s
actually happening in your body. You don’t need
to throw the porn away, but for a few times, masturbate
without porn, and concentrate on yourself for a change!
Does your left hand know what your
right hand is doing?
Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most
guys do. If you’re among them, start with the
simple tip of switching hands. It can feel strange at
first, the rhythm might be off, it may almost feel like
sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy the newness,
and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some tricks.
Experiment with positions
If you aren’t an experimental type, it’s
time to start. If you’re used to masturbating
lying down on your back, try sitting up. If you normally
sit in a chair, try standing or kneeling. As with all
these changes, this might feel ridiculous at first,
and you’ll probably go back to old faithful, but
see what masturbation feels like in different positions
and notice if it brings with it any new sensations.
Get your hips moving
The way your body moves when you masturbate is probably
very different from the way it moves when you’re
having sex with someone else. Many men don’t move
at all when they masturbate. Try to move your hips when
you masturbate, simulating the thrusting of intercourse.
Notice how moving your hips in different ways can bring
you closer to, and at times take you farther away from,
the point of orgasm.
Use different hand strokes
Most men learn early on that a vigorous stroke does
the trick. This intense up and down stimulation usually
ends in a good orgasm. But there are dozens of other
strokes that each bring with them different sensations,
and different orgasms. Roll your penis in between your
hands, moving your hands up and down your shaft. Try
using long twisting strokes instead of just up and down.
Experiment with different movements, pressures, and
speeds.
Explore your shaft
While most of the nerve endings on the penis are at
the head, and specifically the frenulum, many men will
have spots on their shaft that are unusually sensitive.
Try putting one hand at the base of your penis and press
it towards your body while experimenting with different
hand strokes along the shaft of your penis. Treat this
like a treasure hunt, and try to feel the difference
between one side and the other, between stimulation
near the base and up near the tip.
Reach around, yourself
For many men the testicles are a very sensitive area
that responds well to feelings of touch and pressure.
Take your forefinger and thumb and make them in a circle
at the top of your scrotum. Gently tug on your scrotum
as your masturbating. This is both a way to prevent
you from ejaculating and a way to extend sexual feelings
in your body. Experiment with other kinds of touch including
tickling, scratching, and rubbing.
Check out the neighbourhood
While the penis and scrotum tend to be the focus of
masturbatory attention, if you’re looking to open
things up a bit, be sure to take a tour of some other
nearby areas. The perineum, the area between the scrotum
and anus, is very sensitive to pressure and massage,
and rubbing it provides external prostate stimulation.
Speaking of which, don’t be afraid to explore
the anus, both externally and by using a finger for
penetration. Anal masturbation which stimulates the
prostate gland can be intensely pleasurable. The prostate
gland supplies fluid to semen and it can be stimulated
by either using a finger(s) or a sexual toy placed in
the anus into the rectum. This form of male masturbation
is considered to be very pleasurable since the orgasms
are intense.
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