There are as many male sexual fantasies as there are
men in the World, we have catalogued just a few of the
most common - they are by no means the definitive list!
Fantasies About Your Current Partner
No kidding! This is the number one sexual fantasy for
most men: things you've done, or would like to do, to
your partner. Why? - because available flesh-and-blood
is often more of a turn-on than the unattainable.
Having Sex with a Woman Other Than
Your Partner
Often, she's a past lover, a friend of your partner,
perhaps a celebrity. The psychology behind this one
isn't too difficult: lots of people long to have sex
with someone new and fantasy is a great way of indulging
this longing without losing your partner in the process.
Giving or Receiving Oral Sex
This is near the top of the list for both sexes. Fantasy
fellatio has one vital ingredient: the woman doesn't
do it to give pleasure. She does it to get pleasure.
Fantasies about giving her oral sex are common as well.
Many women are more obviously turned-on by oral sex
than intercourse and you, as the ultimate pleasure-giver,
want to drive her crazy.
Sex with Two or More Women
If having sex with one-woman feels good, having sex
with two must double the fun. Throw in some lesbian
lovemaking and this one sends most of you drifting off
into la-la land. In your fantasy, you're a super stud,
capable of bringing both women intense multiple orgasms.
However, studies show the vast majority of men don't
want (and actually couldn't cope with) such sexual demands
in real life.
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Few people would be able to keep themselves from watching
a couple having sex if they were guaranteed not to get
caught. The reason that voyeurism is a popular fantasy
for both men and women is that sex is private and mostly
hidden. Sure, we've seen couples do it on video, but
it's rare we get to see the real thing.
Exhibitionistic fantasies often revolve around others
admiring you. You put on a fine show and the voyeur
is usually envious of your sexual skills, desperately
wishing they were the person you were making love to.
It's an ego-boosting fantasy.
Having Your Partner Masturbate for
You
Watching your partner "play with herself"
is up there on most men's wish lists, possibly because
it reassures them that women are as into sex as they
are. Also, the related fantasy of watching a woman masturbate
appeals to your curious side: what is she really up
to when you're not around?
Anal Sex
It doesn't mean you've got "gay tendencies."
The anus is undeniably an erotic zone, especially for
men. A lot of you would love to have her penetrate you
with a finger, or want to have anal sex with her, but
worry she'll think you're gay if you suggest it. So
you fantasise instead.
Bondage and S & M
Being tied up is often a favourite female role and tying
someone up is often a favourite male role - which works
out rather nicely if you play this one out in real life!
Bondage fantasies are usually about power - having it
or relinquishing it - and both sides have their appeal.
Bondage usually comes to mind because it's the subject
of many scenes in erotic books and movies.
Sadomasochistic (S and M) fantasies
are less common but certainly not rare. Sadism is getting
off on inflicting pain on someone else; masochism is
getting off on someone hurting you. Most mild S and
M fantasies revolve around whipping and spanking. Pleasure
and pain are inextricably linked in the minds of some
people and, in reality, spanking increases blood flow
to the genital area (and therefore turns us on biologically).
Masochistic fantasies sometimes stem from subconsciously
thinking sex is bad and that you need to be punished
for liking it.
Sexual Ravaging
Contrary to what most women believe, when you fantasise
about forcing a woman to have sex with you it's more
about overpowering her through your amazing sexual technique
and charisma than violence. She starts off saying "no"
then can't help but say "yes," given the super
hunk that you are.
Conversely, if she's forcing you to have sex, you're
indulging in a submissive sexual role quite unlike the
one you probably have in real life.
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