A word of warning here. Care should
always be taken when masturbating with a dildo. Excessive
size or over enthusiastic movements can cause internal
bruising or worse. Small objects or items that can break
or shed parts can cause real problems, such as cutting
or internal losses, both of which could require medical
assistance to fix. Hygiene too has to be considered.
Any germs on an inserted item are going to get into
you and could cause infections of various types; it
is often a good idea to place a condom over your chosen
object. So be warned, if you want to insert something
make sure it's safe. Whatever you choose to insert,
it will technically be a dildo, as dildo is the name
for a substitute penis used for penetrative masturbation.
For this reason we will just use the
word dildo but you can read it as being whatever you
have to hand (hair brush handle, carrot, candle etc..).
Alternatively you can buy a dildo. First off, try to
ensure your vagina is well lubricated, either with natural
juices or some form of lubrication. Take it easy with
the insertion, especially if the object you are using
is larger than say a couple of fingers in diameter.
Masturbating with the dildo by moving it in and out
gives a pleasant feeling but experiment with stirring
actions and trying different angles of insertion. An
angle where the head of the dildo is going to rub up
the front wall of your vagina may be especially nice
for you (it rubs on your 'G' spot).
Working the dildo only takes one
hand so it may be fun to use the other elsewhere, such
as on your clitoris. This is the most likely way to
have an orgasm as few women orgasm from vaginal stimulation
only (though it is nice). It can also be fun to combine
a dildo with a vibrator at this point as well, or perhaps
invest in the type of dildo that also vibrates. Dildos
can also be used externally to good effect, especially
the softer latex/silicone types that are commercially
available. To try this option grease up your dildo with
plenty of lube, place it in a flat surface that you
can straddle (pile of cushions, arm of a sofa, edge
of a bath tub etc) and sit on it so that it runs the
length of your vulva from clitoris to anus. Slide your
body back and forth so that your weight pushes your
clitoris and other sensitive parts down onto the shaft
as it slides through between your labia majora, and
slide to and fro. If this becomes tiring then hold the
position, grab the end of the dildo that is sticking
out the front and work it back and forth against yourself.
How big should a dildo be? It is worth
considering issues of dildo size, especially if you
are going to spend money on a commercial one. First
don't believe the myth that bigger is always better.
The best is the one that suits you and that may be a
long thin one, a short fat one or a long fat one (especially
for those of us that have had children). You're no less
of a woman if you want a small one or more of one if
you want a king-size tool. It should be kept in mind
that narrower shafts are easier to insert and allow
faster stroking, whereas thicker ones take more inserting
and are usually harder to work in and out, though they
do give a pleasant 'stuffed' sensation. The bottom line
is be realistic in deciding what you need and what you
can handle before you buy a dildo, unless you can afford
a selection!
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