Fellatio is a type of oral sex in which there is mouth
contact with the penis. In fellatio the head and shaft
of the penis are licked, kissed and sucked. The mucous
membrane inside the mouth is similar to the lining of
the vagina. The moist slippery feel of the mouth and
tongue on the penis can be extremely pleasurable.
Fellatio can be incorporated as part of a couple's foreplay,
meant to heighten sexual arousal, or it can be the main
activity, meant to bring the man to orgasm. Fellatio
is common among both heterosexual and homosexual couples,
yet not everyone engages in it. Some women, and to a
far lesser extent some men, simply do not feel comfortable
with this type of oral sex.
Even if a couple includes fellatio
in their sexual relationship, anxieties about performing
fellatio on a man may still exist. The person performing
fellatio may have concerns that the partner's penis
may be too large for her or his mouth or that it may
cause gagging. Another common worry is that the man
will urinate during fellatio, or if ejaculation occurs,
that the taste or feel of semen in the mouth will be
unpleasant.
Although an erect penis may be too
large to fit entirely in one's mouth, some form of mouth
contact can usually be made on the penis regardless
of size. How deep into the mouth a penis penetrates
can be controlled by either the man or his partner placing
their hand around the shaft of the penis. This technique
allows the hand to act as a stopper to control the depth
the penis enters the mouth, thereby reducing the risk
of gagging due to deep penetration. A thick penis that
may stretch the lips and mouth can be licked up and
down the shaft and around the glans without trying to
take the penis fully into the mouth.
With regard to urinating during fellatio,
it is extremely unlikely that any man is going to urinate
in his partner's mouth by accident. Men cannot ejaculate
and urinate at the same time. During ejaculation there
is a reflex action that contracts a muscle in the neck
of the bladder which leads to the penis preventing the
flow of urine.
If a person giving fellatio is hesitant
to have the man ejaculate into her or his mouth, the
partner can signal when he is about to ejaculate and
his penis can be removed from the mouth. For some, the
slightly salty and chlorine-like taste of semen (which
can intermingle with certain tastes from a partner's
recent meal) can create an unpleasant taste; others
may find this unique taste part of the erotic experience
of lovemaking.
If couples feel comfortable incorporating
fellatio into their sexual relationship, communication
about their concerns and preferences, along with experimentation
with different techniques can allow for a pleasurable
experience for both partners.
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